God knew your strengths and weaknesses when you signed up to be a parent, and He still hired you. So if He doesn’t regret giving you the job of raising His children, then you have nothing to feel guilty about. You are free to be yourself. You know your kids and what they need, so trust the insight God has given you. He assures us in 2 Corinthians 12:9-10 that He will be strong where we are weak. All we have to do is depend on Him.
– Lisa Whelchel
Parenting is not for the faint of heart. There will be days so hard it will rock you to your core and then days where you didn’t realize you could feel such pride.
Here are a few book recommendations to get you through these years. No two children are the same, so I am starting with the books that I think can be helpful no matter your child’s personality.
Power of a Praying Parent
– Every chapter addresses a different challenge that your child is going to face at one point or another. Often times as a parent all you can do is pray. At least that’s the way I have felt at times, no matter how much I want to intervene. There were other times I was unsure how to pray and I appreciated the guided prayers.
Love and Logic
– So, I am big on Love and Logic. Sure you can micromanage your kids, but it’s exhausting and in the long run, you really are not doing them any favors doing this. My take away was: pick and choose your battles. Sometimes, of course, you have to intervene, but there are a lot of times that they are better off facing consequences.
– This book got a bad rap a while back, but I read it and found it quite helpful. Each child is different. The way you deal with one child is not the way you deal with the other child. I liked having a ton of ideas to work with.
The Five Love Languages of Children
– I think knowing your child’s love language is extremely important. For example, what if your child’s love language is touch and you are spanking them. You are essentially using their love language against them. That child needs a different form of punishment that doesn’t hurt their soul while learning a lesson.
Parenting – 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family by Paul Tripp
Praying Circles Around Your Children (Mark Batterson), Shepherding a Child’s Heart (Ted Tripp)
Parenting (Paul David Tripp)
How To Love Your Teenager – Dr. Ross Campbell
Bill Gothard’s material on Chain of Command.
How to Catch a Dragon (has a new title now),
Tough Guys and Drama Queens
The Connected Child
Anatomy of the Soul
Out-of Sync Child
Captivating and Wild at Heart by Eldridge and his wife.
Parenting beyond your capacity- Carey Nieuwhof & Reggie Joiner.
Orange wrote a book called Its Just a Phase- it has really helped me understand what’s going on in my kids at the specific age they are at.
Age of Opportunity – for preteens and teens
Dare to Discipline
Boyhood and Beyond by Bob Schultz